People make good friends from college or university days. If you’re old (past the age of 50) you have certainly noticed that making those kinds of lifelong friendships is very difficult. As this age, you have other things on your mind, like your grandchildren. Some people don’t even have 90 minutes of free time per day. Simply put, time is scarcer. Or maybe you have bought a house in the suburbs where all the families are young and there’s no one you can connect with. Putting yourself out there is not easy either. There’s much talk about joining clubs and meeting like-kind people. Yet, chances are that these people already have companions. So what do you do? Having friends is one of life’s best rewards and if you aren’t happy with your current social, you should do something about it. Being lonely is not the answer. These are the steps that you need to take for change to happen.
Try making local friends
Geography counts, which is the reason why you need to orient yourself towards people who live near you. If you have already noticed people who are good candidates for senior friendship, then act right away. Sitting around at home won’t help you bring new people into your life. If you’re really determined to be more outgoing, start by looking around the neighbourhood. Are there any coffee shops, public libraries or local clubs? The likelihood is that that there are numerous activities going on in your area and it would be a shame not to take advantage of them. Go out more and try approaching people. All you have to do is go over and great people. They key is starting the conversation, the rest comes naturally. Getting out once in a while will significantly increase your chances of meeting new people.
Do what you love
At your age, you’re no longer required to work, so you might as well pursue your interests. No matter if you enjoy playing tennis/chess or reading, do what you like. The important thing is that you socialise and meet new people. Set a time when you can pursue your passion. Join the local tennis club or become a member of the book club. You’ll meet a great deal of people and, most importantly, you will have something in common. Places like these ones are the best because they attract people with common interests, so meeting someone of the same kind as you is very possible. What is more, you will see the same people on a regular basis.
Make an effort
To form friendships, you have to invest both time and energy. Ask your companions to come hang out with, make lunch invitations, or you or call them just to ask how they’re doing. The more you invest in a friendship, the more you are likely to keep it going. Today, it’s never been easier to keep up with acquaintances. There’s Skype and many other apps that facilitate communication. Online you can easily interact with people and listen to their stories. Who knows? Maybe you’ll learn something yourself.
Consider using technology
You’re never too old for tech. Technology is easy to use and it can open many doors. Using Skype is a good idea, but an even greater idea is setting up a Facebook account. Teens are using social networking sites, so why shouldn’t you? Half of today’s friendships start digitally and it’s not hard to understand why. You can connect with people who don’t live nearby and you can talk for as long as you want. Your friends could actually recommend you people living in your area. More and more seniors are signing up for social media, so what are you waiting for? You can keep in touch, do research, and ask questions.
Get a part-time job
If you’re in good health, think about getting a part-time job. Not for the money, but for socialising. A job will give you the chance to get out of the house, even if it is for only a few hours a week. But how to kindle a workplace connection? Yet again, taking initiative is the best solution. Start by introducing yourself and talk about your passions or interests. If you don’t share yourself, you’ll not make lifelong friendships. Take part in company activities and get to know your colleagues. You will be surprised to see that you aren’t that different from others. Concerning the job itself, look for a cashier position. This way, you’ll be able to actually talk to people.